A Couple Assesses Their Irresponsible and Abusive Drinking and Their Aspirations and Goals
Bruce and Sherry have been in a dating relationship for seven years. They met while taking the same art appreciation class at a large state school located in central Minnesota. While they were primarily classmates their first two years at school, during their junior year they started dating one another.
Since Bruce and Sherry came from old school, deeply religious families, neither one of them drank very much beyond the trial phase like they did while they were in high school. The more they dated, nevertheless, the more they began developing their social life outside of the classroom by regularly attending various activities such as soccer pep rallies, impromptu keg parties, hanging out with their friends at happy hour, and attending sorority and fraternity parties. Because drinking was so common during or after these activities, Sherry and Bruce started to drink increasingly more as their dating relationship progressed.
After they graduated with their Bachelor of Science degree, Bruce and Sherry made up their minds that they wanted to continue their relationship and so they moved to a relatively large city that was located around fifty miles from their college. Not long after they moved into an apartment with one another, they found employment in the same large company.
After working at their jobs for about four or five months, Sherry and Bruce started to develop friendships with a few other couples. Not unlike their college days, moreover, most of the activities and events they attended with their friends somehow, someway centered around drinking. As a result, the more they associated with their friends the more they engaged in hazardous and irresponsible drinking.
Something started to change in their relationship, however, after Sherry and Bruce had been living in the same apartment about a year. As improbable has it sounds, even though they continued to drink with their friends, their relationship grew. Now, instead of thinking about the next drinking event they would attend, however, they began discussing getting married, having children, and building a new house. In short, Sherry and Bruce began thinking about becoming more responsible adults who would be able to make more positive contributions to society.
With most major changes in a persons life there is often something that severs as a catalyst for the change. For Bruce and Sherry, the thought of getting married, moving into a house, and having children was this catalyst. Not only this, but for the first time in their relationship, they began questioning their drinking behavior and wondering if their excessive drinking could eventually affect their health in a negative way.
As Sherry and Bruce began to question their party mentality and their drinking behavior, quite a few additional questions quickly materialized. As an illustration, how would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long-term aspirations, hopes, and dreams while they still drank in an immature and careless manner as they had done while they were in college? How responsible would they be if they had children and continued to drink in a hazardous manner? What would their irresponsible drinking do to their relationship? How would their abusive drinking affect their mental health? Would their careless and excessive drinking negatively affect their ability to have children? And finally, how would they be able to continue spending most of their money on drinking if they were to begin saving for a new house?
Looking at things a little differently, although Sherry and Bruce never experienced alcohol withdrawal symptoms, got arrested for driving under the influence, or suffered from an alcohol overdose, they understood the fact that their hazardous and abusive drinking was becoming a serious problem that they could not afford to disregard any longer.
The more that Sherry and Bruce reflected on their drinking and their party mentality, the more they arrived at the same conclusion: if they were to achieve their dreams, hopes, and aspirations, they would have to give up their irresponsible drinking.
Once Bruce and Sherry arrived at their short term game plan, they had a meeting with their friends and let them know that they had determined that they were gong to stop their hazardous drinking and their partying because they wanted to move into a house, get married, and start having children. To their wonder, their friends articulated a similar attitude because they had also concluded that their excessive drinking and partying was negatively affecting the realization of their future plans and goals.
After their heart-to-heart discussion with their friends about their future plans, hopes, and aspirations, Bruce and Sherry were pleased to discover that they started to have even more meaningful relationships with all of their friends. The major reason for this was the fact that all of them now possessed a similar attitude concerning their party lifestyle and how their excessive and careless drinking was adversely affecting their short and long-term goals, aspirations, and plans.
Since Bruce and Sherry came from old school, deeply religious families, neither one of them drank very much beyond the trial phase like they did while they were in high school. The more they dated, nevertheless, the more they began developing their social life outside of the classroom by regularly attending various activities such as soccer pep rallies, impromptu keg parties, hanging out with their friends at happy hour, and attending sorority and fraternity parties. Because drinking was so common during or after these activities, Sherry and Bruce started to drink increasingly more as their dating relationship progressed.
After they graduated with their Bachelor of Science degree, Bruce and Sherry made up their minds that they wanted to continue their relationship and so they moved to a relatively large city that was located around fifty miles from their college. Not long after they moved into an apartment with one another, they found employment in the same large company.
After working at their jobs for about four or five months, Sherry and Bruce started to develop friendships with a few other couples. Not unlike their college days, moreover, most of the activities and events they attended with their friends somehow, someway centered around drinking. As a result, the more they associated with their friends the more they engaged in hazardous and irresponsible drinking.
Something started to change in their relationship, however, after Sherry and Bruce had been living in the same apartment about a year. As improbable has it sounds, even though they continued to drink with their friends, their relationship grew. Now, instead of thinking about the next drinking event they would attend, however, they began discussing getting married, having children, and building a new house. In short, Sherry and Bruce began thinking about becoming more responsible adults who would be able to make more positive contributions to society.
With most major changes in a persons life there is often something that severs as a catalyst for the change. For Bruce and Sherry, the thought of getting married, moving into a house, and having children was this catalyst. Not only this, but for the first time in their relationship, they began questioning their drinking behavior and wondering if their excessive drinking could eventually affect their health in a negative way.
As Sherry and Bruce began to question their party mentality and their drinking behavior, quite a few additional questions quickly materialized. As an illustration, how would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long-term aspirations, hopes, and dreams while they still drank in an immature and careless manner as they had done while they were in college? How responsible would they be if they had children and continued to drink in a hazardous manner? What would their irresponsible drinking do to their relationship? How would their abusive drinking affect their mental health? Would their careless and excessive drinking negatively affect their ability to have children? And finally, how would they be able to continue spending most of their money on drinking if they were to begin saving for a new house?
Looking at things a little differently, although Sherry and Bruce never experienced alcohol withdrawal symptoms, got arrested for driving under the influence, or suffered from an alcohol overdose, they understood the fact that their hazardous and abusive drinking was becoming a serious problem that they could not afford to disregard any longer.
The more that Sherry and Bruce reflected on their drinking and their party mentality, the more they arrived at the same conclusion: if they were to achieve their dreams, hopes, and aspirations, they would have to give up their irresponsible drinking.
Once Bruce and Sherry arrived at their short term game plan, they had a meeting with their friends and let them know that they had determined that they were gong to stop their hazardous drinking and their partying because they wanted to move into a house, get married, and start having children. To their wonder, their friends articulated a similar attitude because they had also concluded that their excessive drinking and partying was negatively affecting the realization of their future plans and goals.
After their heart-to-heart discussion with their friends about their future plans, hopes, and aspirations, Bruce and Sherry were pleased to discover that they started to have even more meaningful relationships with all of their friends. The major reason for this was the fact that all of them now possessed a similar attitude concerning their party lifestyle and how their excessive and careless drinking was adversely affecting their short and long-term goals, aspirations, and plans.
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Denny Mitchell writes about alcohol abuse signs, urine alcohol testing, Christian alcohol rehab, and teen alcohol abuse. For more info, visit teen alcohol abuse statistics.
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