Getting Back Together With Your Ex
If you have recently experienced a breakup, chances are good that you are looking for answers on one of two things, either how you are supposed to get over your ex or how you should go about getting your ex back. Both are hard options, but most people will fit into one of the two categories, with only a few of them actually being able to fully move on without pinning for their ex or wishing for a different outcome.
Before you do anything you need to step back and really analyze the relationship and your ex. Think about how everything was and how everything will be now. Try to set the way you are feeling aside and be objective. You'll either really want your ex back or you might find that the breakup isn't really that bad of an idea.
If after your step back you decide that you would really like to get back together with your ex then the first thing on your agenda should be to apologize. Now you may feel like you have already done this. Maybe even multiple times. But if you were saying you were sorry during your break up then your ex probably did not think you were being sincere, only that you were trying to stop the breakup from happening.
If you did something to your ex that deserves a sincere apology then consider apologizing again without trying to get back with your ex. Your ex will think you are sincere this time since nothing is hinging on your apologizing. When you have already gone through the breakup, then you won't be apologizing simply to try and save your relationship, but because you are truly sorry and meant it.
If your ex is the one that should be apologizing, instead of trying to get them to give you a sincere apology, forgive them. You might not ever forget, especially if cheating was involved, but if you would like to get your ex back then you will need to be able to forgive them. Simply saying that you forgive them might not be enough for you to actually forgive them so you might need to read a book, or two, on how to really forgive someone. If you want to win back your ex then this step is critical. It can also prevent your relationship with them from having future problems.
If you do get back together with your ex, a few months down the road of your newly repaired relationship, some of the old problems that the relationship had might start finding there way back into your relationship. If you only said you forgave your ex but really didn't, then you will have a hard time getting past everything. When old wounds are reopened, then hurtful things are often said.
If you have really forgiven your ex, then there will be no need to re-live the past problems. While you are learning how to forgive your ex for the reasons that you broke up, try to forgive them for the break up itself. This will save you a ton of heartache later down the road.
Another thing you can do to win back your ex is to show them the side of you that they fell in love with, not just the you who got broken up with. You were in the relationship because you had certain qualities that they loved about you like your thoughtfulness or kindness, not because you were hurt, angry, and a green eyed monster. While it will be difficult to hide that you are hurt, you should concentrate on being the best "you" that you can be and you might win back your ex by being the person that they fell in love with.
Before you do anything you need to step back and really analyze the relationship and your ex. Think about how everything was and how everything will be now. Try to set the way you are feeling aside and be objective. You'll either really want your ex back or you might find that the breakup isn't really that bad of an idea.
If after your step back you decide that you would really like to get back together with your ex then the first thing on your agenda should be to apologize. Now you may feel like you have already done this. Maybe even multiple times. But if you were saying you were sorry during your break up then your ex probably did not think you were being sincere, only that you were trying to stop the breakup from happening.
If you did something to your ex that deserves a sincere apology then consider apologizing again without trying to get back with your ex. Your ex will think you are sincere this time since nothing is hinging on your apologizing. When you have already gone through the breakup, then you won't be apologizing simply to try and save your relationship, but because you are truly sorry and meant it.
If your ex is the one that should be apologizing, instead of trying to get them to give you a sincere apology, forgive them. You might not ever forget, especially if cheating was involved, but if you would like to get your ex back then you will need to be able to forgive them. Simply saying that you forgive them might not be enough for you to actually forgive them so you might need to read a book, or two, on how to really forgive someone. If you want to win back your ex then this step is critical. It can also prevent your relationship with them from having future problems.
If you do get back together with your ex, a few months down the road of your newly repaired relationship, some of the old problems that the relationship had might start finding there way back into your relationship. If you only said you forgave your ex but really didn't, then you will have a hard time getting past everything. When old wounds are reopened, then hurtful things are often said.
If you have really forgiven your ex, then there will be no need to re-live the past problems. While you are learning how to forgive your ex for the reasons that you broke up, try to forgive them for the break up itself. This will save you a ton of heartache later down the road.
Another thing you can do to win back your ex is to show them the side of you that they fell in love with, not just the you who got broken up with. You were in the relationship because you had certain qualities that they loved about you like your thoughtfulness or kindness, not because you were hurt, angry, and a green eyed monster. While it will be difficult to hide that you are hurt, you should concentrate on being the best "you" that you can be and you might win back your ex by being the person that they fell in love with.
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